1. To graduate nursing school, pass my NCLEX & obtain a job (or 2)....Well, I did graduate. I did pass my NCLEX & I have been working one job for close to 5 months & I even found that 2nd job & have worked it for a little while now. Beginning in Jan. 2013, I am going back to working just 1 job (the one I've had for almost 5 months now). I am beginning to find my place in nursing. Interestingly, it's in a type of nursing I never thought I'd like & in a position that a year ago I would have flat out told you I'd not even consider. Funny how life works that way...
2. Make time for me at least 3 days a week (preferably 5) in which I can walk for exercise, stress-relief, & mental wellness...This is an area in which I still need much work. I have improved on letting the little things go & on enjoying a good book once in a while without feeling guilty because I'm not studying or there's a load of laundry going unfolded. Still, I made this "resolution" to work on my physical health as well & there's a ton of room for improvement there.
3. Encourage Livi's running. She's working on something that I hope will become a lifelong love & habit for her...Although I continue to encourage Livi's love of running, this year has been a very trying year for her health-wise & her running has been set aside due to those health issues. I am hopeful that the new year will bring answers into what's been going on with her & that she can resume this activity that she enjoys.
4. Make time every day to really listen to Toby. Smile at him. Laugh with him.
5. Have a date night at least once a month.
6. Vacation at least once this year with Toby & Livi...These are all areas that I still need to work on. Unfortunately, one of the side effects of nursing school is that you become so focused on what needs to be done that you forsake those around you. Then there's the cost of nursing school which sucks any extra cash right out of your family budget. Although, I think Toby & I have made some good strides in discovering what it's like to be a couple again, I think we also highly underestimated the effect that the changes in our family roles/dynamics would have on our family as a whole. It's been a big adjustment to go from him working outside the home & me taking care of things at home to us both working outside the home & sharing the "at home" responsibilities. It's an ongoing work in progress as we adjust to a new way of life. We've yet to get to the once-a-month date nights & we had to skip a family vacation this year due to both financial & work obligations.
7. Try new recipes & keep my blogs updated regularly...This is something I really enjoy. I haven't been able to keep up with it as much as I'd like to, but now that I'm settling into my job maybe I'll have more time for this hobby in 2013.
8. Save for a new home. & 9. Save for a new-to-us vehicle...Saving money has never came easy to us. I know for some people it's a no brainer, but I am the biggest pushover when it comes to caving when Toby or Livi wants something so I've always been a poor saver. (And, I'm a self-confessed McDonald's Coca-Cola addict...)Toby & I have recently implemented some changes in how we take care of our finances & we're hoping that these new ideas will help us to be better savers. As for the "new-to-us vehicle", we've decided to hold off on that for a little while longer. There is something wonderful about not having an auto payment & every time I think about going into debt for a vehicle I get a little sick feeling so this is something that can wait for now.
10. Be a better mom...Gosh, this has become a daily mantra for me. If I live to be 105, I'll still be getting up every morning praying to be a better mom, going to bed at night thinking I did it all wrong & praying for one more day to try again. I don't think there is such a thing as a perfect mom & I'm not even aiming for perfection. All I aim for is to be worthy of the incredible daughter I've been blessed with.
11. Help Toby expand his guitar business. Help make it possible for him to attend the seminars & workshops that he'd like to attend...We're still working on this. There's some ideas in the works, but I'll have to save those for a later blog ;)
12. Be a better "bestie"...I've decided this is similar to being a better mom. It's one of those things you can work at every day but never be "done" accomplishing. As Steph & I have started on new journeys as nurses, our lives have become cluttered with mixed up work schedules & the juggling of daily life as working moms. Still, I treasure every second we get to spend together & I hope that 2013 brings us more opportunities to see each other & hang out.
13. Buy Toby an Orange Amp...Okay, I didn't technically buy it but through a variety of trades & misc. guitar work, he has managed to obtain an Egnator amp & an Orange Amp. Please don't ask me which one, because I have no idea. All I know is he got the amp(s) he wanted. So, mission accomplished on this one! :) (There's probably a noteworthy connection between my inability to save money & the fact that 1 of the 2 100% accomplished goals for 2012 resulted in Toby getting a couple of amps...just sayin' ;)
I'm actually surprised as I go back through that list at what I was able to accomplish & at the progress I've made on the ones that are still "works-in-progress". Many of these I want to carry forward into 2013 (no more amps, Toby...please ;)
In many ways, life didn't go as I expected after nursing school graduation. I took for granted how the whole process had changed me, the ones I loved & the dynamics of our family. Some of my ideas of how things would go proved to be unrealistic, others proved to be not what I wanted after all. I, incorrectly, assumed that we would pick our lives up where we left off when I entered nursing school & just hit the "resume" button. I never took into account how different everything would be. Not different in a bad way, just different in a "we-have-to-learn-to-adjust" kind of way. Nursing itself proved to be everything I expected & nothing I expected all at the same time.
If I can set just one basic goal for 2013, it's that I want the 3 of us to make this adjustment & become comfortable in the new roles & dynamics of our family. Personally, I hope to find the balance between working mom, wife & nurse. It's a challenge right now, but I do love a good challenge :)
How did your new year goals/resolutions go in 2012? Any new ones for 2013?
Happy New Year!